I’ll just say it plainly: this book met me exactly where I am. For those who may not know, I have two college-aged kids. That alone places me squarely in what the doctors politely call the “perimenopause range.” My Instagram tag, your fave auntie, probably gave that away too.

Enter Melani Sanders.

If you haven’t caught her on Instagram or YouTube, you are missing out. She is funny. She is bold. She is telling the truth. And in The We Do Not Care Club Handbook, she brings that same unfiltered, hilarious honesty to the page.

This season of life can be incredibly frustrating. The hormonal shifts. The mood swings. The brain fog. The sudden urge to walk out of a meeting because someone asked one more unnecessary question. The fans. The forgotten keys. The occasional “did I put on real pants today?” moment.

Melani names it all – without shame.

What I appreciate most about this handbook is that it isn’t just comedy (though you will laugh). Beneath the humor is reassurance: this is a season. And most importantly, we are not alone.

The book blends storytelling with practical, actionable advice. One of the most powerful sections focuses on advocating for yourself with your healthcare team. So many of my friends and colleagues in this same stage say the same thing: our providers sometimes increase our frustration with a lack of empathy or understanding about what we’re experiencing. Sanders doesn’t just vent about it; she equips us to speak up.

And that matters.

She also reminds us to celebrate our daily wins, the quiet victories in how we show up for family, friends, and colleagues while navigating a body and brain that seem to have rewritten the rules without our permission.

Trip Summary: The “We Do Not Care Club” isn’t about apathy. It’s about release. It’s about choosing peace over performance. It’s about letting go of the pressure to explain, justify, or overextend. Just remember to bring your fan, your readers, your water bottle, and your pants. Five passport stamps ⭐ 5️⃣.

~ RR